Today I’ll wrap up my discussion on what I call The Number One Divorce Stopper. As you know by now, there’s no perfect relationship, no perfect marriage.
If you are currently having problems in your marriage and feel that it may be on the brink of divorce, I encourage you to read my previous posts on this topic — perhaps it will help: The Number One Divorce Stopper (Part 1), The Number One Divorce Stopper (Part 2), and The Number One Divorce Stopper (Part 3). Now on to the final part — Part 4.
So listen, the bottom line is this: if you or your spouse do not understand the sacredness of the marriage covenant, divorce will always be an easy cop-out. Don’t get me wrong, I do believe divorce is justified under certain circumstances (please read previous posts on the subject) but I’m not talking about those instances.
In order for you to have a successful marriage you must believe in your own words. You must first ask yourself, “Am I a person of my word?” When you make a vow to someone it’s more than just a promise–it’s your words unto God. Do you remember what you said? Do you remember your marriage vows? Those are some heavy words and people don’t seem to honor their marriage vows anymore. Yes, times have certainly changed…and it has changed for the worse. For those who are considering marriage — you better know what you’re getting into. What’s the point of getting married only to have the marriage end in a divorce?
For those who are already married and are on the brink of divorce — I say it’s time to close your mouth and really listen to what your spouse is saying. Why do they want a divorce? Why do YOU want a divorce? Trust me, it’s a humbling experience but think long and hard about why you want out. You may find yourself laughing at the real reason you’re ready to call it quits.
I understand that marriage and relationships can be complicated at times — I know, it’ll be 20 years of marriage for me in December.
However, in the good times and the not-so-good times; when you both invite God into your marriage through the form of prayer, you may find yourself in a long-lasting and happy marriage. Prayer and good communication is the key to a successful marriage. I don’t claim to be an expert on the subject, these are merely two things that has worked for me. I’m just passing it along. Maybe it will help you as well. Feel free to contact me through this blog and let me know how it goes! Wish you the best.
“to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part…”