Why 42% of African-American Women are Unmarried
The video below is an interesting segment from Nightline that ABC NewsOne correspondent Linsey Davis covered on the subject of why an innumerous amount of African-American women are not married.
Several educated Atlanta based African-American women discuss their apparent dilemma as to why they have been unable to tie the knot. Television and radio personality, comedian and author Steve Harvey makes a personal appearance in the segment to address the issue from an African-American male perspective.
Bottom line is, it’s not that black women do not desire to be married, but based on the undisputed facts in this segment and several of my own, several factors play a part in relation to why 42% of African-American women have never been married.
Below are some factors to be aware of as to the reasons why the majority for African-American women are not getting married:
- There are 1.8 million more African American women in the United States than African-American men.
- Though there are still men available who are ready for marriage, many African-American men simply aren’t ready to settle down because of the abundance of black women.
- African-American men are increasingly dating and marrying outside their race.
- African-American men are increasingly dating and marrying the same sex.
- A vast amount of African-American men are incarcerated.
- African-American men feel that black women have too high a standard (high criteria) when it comes to what they want from a man in a marital relationship.
- Some African-American men are simply intimidated by confident single black women, let alone them being educated and financially secure prior to marriage.
- Some African-American women actually don’t want to be married.
Well those are just some reasons but the real question is, should you settle for less on marriage just because your biological clock has been ticking for a while? Never.
So, is there a black girl curse? Nonsense.
Be willing to settle down and not settle for less but don’t be too picky either. Don’t be a “back pocket girl” and you definitely don’t want to be in someone’s “rotation.” No, keep doin’ you, fuggetaboutit, and that’s when he’ll fall right in your lap. There are many good African-American men looking for a good woman like you. You are a good woman, no? Better start praying though, ’cause with those above stats? Gonna definitely take a “higher power” to help you find the right man, let alone sustain the marriage.
Throw away who you think will be your best and start praying for God’s best for you. You may be surprised.
My thing is SOME of the sistas need to stop with the EDUCATED badge! I’ve noticed when most described themselves, the 1st word they use is EDUCATED. It’s like they go out the way, to make sure you know that. Getting an post high school education is nothing new and special to brag about. If I were a man, I would be put off, if you feel you’re better than me, my friends and family, because you have 5 degrees and over $50,000 in student loans! As far as myself, Im married, 6 years. I know in my heart, that even if I had 10 degrees and lived a single 5 Star lifestyle, I’ll still share it with the man I met 7 years ago. My beautiful, blue-collar, warehouse-working King! As long as we both bring in a check, my job is no better than his and vice versa.
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I am commenting on the post about the 42 % of Black women not being married. I’d like to say that I don’t think those numbers are accurate for one thing because the U.S. Census doesn’t count all people and they still consider people of North Africa and Middle East as White which is not true so the count is not accurate at all.
I also think you should stop saying that these women are having hard times in finding a husband. For one thing, marriage is not for everybody and Jesus even says that in the bible. Jesus said that there are some people who are Eunuchs and they are born with no desire for sex and marriage and there is nothing wrong with them if they choose not to marry or remain single.
One reason many women may not want to get married is because they find it easier to live together and many may have seen other couples in loveless marriages and they do not want to experience that. Another reason is that there is a shortage of men in America and so many people are doing the polygamy thing, meaning that some women are willing to share their man with another woman and to be in a polygamous relationship.
I also don’t think you should concentrate on this issue because when you do, some women may feel that they have to get married in order to avoid being in a stigma and if they do rush marriage, they could end up in a loveless or an abusive relationship. So please leave this issue alone. If these women really want to be happily married and have the desire to be happily married, then believe me they will be happily married.
I am a white male, and when I was in 5th grade I had a HUGE crush on an african-american girl. anyways, I don’t know if that’s relevant, but if a girl, regardless of race, is nice to people and stuff then marriage is not impossible, methinks.
shiiit please…!!!!they forgot to mention the number one reason! that a lot single black mothers will receive less government support if they are married so the government gives them incentive not to get married!!!!